On Love - Valentine's Day

Just sharing my thoughts on Love.

On July 7, 2011 my wife Faye and I will be married, and in love for 27 'short' years! 

Many people have difficulty accepting that we were not 'in love ' when we got married. 

Six months after Faye and I met for the first time we were married.

We did not 'fall' in love we made a "decision" to love each other. We committed ourselves to loving 

each other; to love and to hold and to care for each other for the rest of our lives. You may ask, how we 

could make such a commitment - the answer is simply,  we were ready.

We believe that love is so much more than just a feeling. Love is a decision. And Faye and I make that decision,

to love each other everyday. 

I want to testify here that the greatest preparation for marriage that we experienced was the "Engaged Encounter Weekend" 

An experience I believe was significant in my wife becoming Catholic through the RCIA program - so that we should be 'equally yoked' in our beliefs.

We surround ourselves with people and things that support our love for each other and we have committed to living many, many more years in love. 

Below is a verse on love and marriage from one of my favorite sages. We had this printed in our wedding invitations. It has been a source of wisdom and guidance over the years.

Happy Valentine's Day

PeaceWarrior

On Marriage by Kahlil Gibran

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. 

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. 

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.